Calgary Divorce Mediators- An Overview

Everyone has a war story about a divorce, their own or one they have experienced vicariously through a friend or relative. Complete with high price tags for dueling lawyers, long drawn out litigation, fights over fitness of one of the parents to have custody of the children, or other big issues. But above all, the pain that the divorcing couple went through. By clicking here we get info about Calgary Divorce Mediators

Divorce will never be an easy process. However, the increasing popularity of alternatives, one of which is divorce mediation, provides you with a better, less painful, less expensive alternative to the usual divorce scenario.
As a mediator, I have experienced the remarkable feeling in the room when the conflict and tenseness that were there in the beginning start to dissolve into something more “normal” and more comfortable. I can feel a certain degree of resolution creep into the room. When the parties realize that with the help of their divorce mediator, they can get through this very difficult stage in their lives, and see the light on the other side; they too can experience this palpable sense of relief.
What Is Divorce Mediation?
A divorce mediator will sit down with both spouses, and help them communicate their needs and concerns in hopes of reaching a settlement agreement over division of property, child custody, child support, and sometimes spousal support. The parties’ participation is voluntary and they have ample time to discuss and negotiate with the assistance of the divorce mediator as facilitator.
Divorce mediators have widely varying styles. You may want to meet with several prospective mediators and chose the one that feels most comfortable to the two of you. Some are more facilitative, others place more emphasis on allowing the parties to talk about their feelings, while others focus more on the agreement itself and ironing out the details.
Divorce Mediation Tends To Reduce Conflict, Which Is Especially Beneficial If There Are Children
Children are the innocent victims of divorce. If parents can reduce the level of conflict, avoid fighting in front of the children, and keep the family routines in place as much as possible, their children will be less traumatized by their parents’ divorce.
The adversarial process is usually very stressful and emotionally demanding, and can sometimes resemble out and out warfare. Children can feel this.
In stark contrast, quality divorce mediators are trained to provide a process through which feelings, concerns and points of view can be expressed. This process allows for a greater sense of closure at the end of the process. Children deserve the best efforts of their parents to lessen conflict in the course of their divorce.
Divorce Mediation Is Less Costly Than Going To Court
In the court process, your attorney’s fees, as well as those of your spouse’s attorney, are chargeable by the hour. Each spouse’s attorney spends time in consultation with you, doing formal discovery to determine your spouse’s assets and other pertinent information, drafting legal memoranda and court documents, representing you in court, conferring with your spouse’s attorney, and managing your case as it winds its way through the various court procedures, which may be contested at each turn by your spouse’s attorney. It all adds up to a princely sum. Not only that, it also adds up to a lot of resentment against your spouse for putting you through all this. It certainly does not foster communication between you and your spouse.

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